вЂњIs it actually possible to find a boyfriend on Tinder?вЂќ
That might be the most popular question IвЂ™m asked when talking about online dating.
My answer, often surprises women. It is an unequivocal вЂњYes.вЂќ
I know. YouвЂ™ve been burned on Tinder by numerous guys looking for something casual, trying to message you for easy sex. ItвЂ™s not surprising you find my answer a little farfetched. But let me elaborate.
Tinder is a funny beast. It is the App that finally made online dating вЂacceptableвЂ™ for the last resistors in GenвЂ™s Y and Z. For that, it deserves credit.
Tinder as a platform has filled up with all sorts of people, but has now established its more ongoing reputation as a hook-up app. While, in some respects, this reputation is deserved, in others, women forget there are just as many good guys looking for a girlfriend (but clueless on how to meet one), who sign up to Tinder, as there are guys looking for a quick root.
The problem is, if you donвЂ™t know how to make Tinder work for you, and youвЂ™re after something serious, the rather large percentage of men on Tinder, who arenвЂ™t, will ruin it for you pretty quickly.
I should probably elaborate on my answer to the earlier question. вЂњIs it possible to meet a boyfriend on Tinder?вЂќ
While explaining the important concepts of online dating is beyond the scope of this article (IвЂ™ve done that here, anyway; give it a read if you havenвЂ™t already), I can give you 10 specific action steps that apply to Tinder.
These alone will vastly increase your chances of finding a good guy on this famous dating app. If you want to find a boyfriend on Tinder, make Tinder work for you. HereвЂ™s 10 secrets to doing just that.
1. DonвЂ™t have anyone else in your profile picture
A guy whoвЂ™s serious about looking for something on Tinder will want to get to know his matches. If he has to guess who you are from your photo, that isnвЂ™t a good start. Take the time to select a nice head-shot that clearly shows who you are and what you really look like, and keep group shots to 1-2 out of the 6 photos, max.
2. Screen out guys who go straight to sex talk
If any sex talk comes from him in your conversations before youвЂ™ve met in person (ideally twice in person), heвЂ™s doing you a favour and letting you know, right off the bat, heвЂ™s using Tinder for that reason. This will help you screen out a lot of the problem guys who make finding a boyfriend tough on Tinder. Thank him and stop responding.
3. DonвЂ™t be the selfie queen. Or even the handmaiden.
Typically, I recommend one selfie as plenty for girls, two if youвЂ™re doing something fun. Any more and you come off as superficial, which attracts the typical, superficial tinder crowd. If you donвЂ™t have 3 nice photos of you that arenвЂ™t selfies, head out with your friends and get some! It presents the image of a more well-rounded person.
4. No cleavage shots
If youвЂ™re on Tinder looking for a boyfriend, sexuality must be portrayed very subtly. Any guy trolling for booty calls is looking for the slightest hint you might https://www.datingmentor.org/escort/mesquite/ be amongst the group of women who are too. You achieve a lot more by covering up and hinting at sexuality than you do displaying any of it.
5. Write a profile
Seriously girls. If you want to give a good guy a chance to stand out, you will have to put the time in to show youвЂ™re, at least, half-serious, too.
If you donвЂ™t have 3 nice photos of you that arenвЂ™t selfies, head out with your friends and get some!
Finding someone on Tinder means building a connection with them. You give a guy absolutely no chance of doing that if you donвЂ™t write a profile. When all you have is photos, then photos are all a guy has to judge you. WhatвЂ™s he going to think with? His penis. ItвЂ™s the only option youвЂ™ve given him.
6. Avoid Profile No-noвЂ™s.
Once youвЂ™ve written a profile, you want to avoid the classic good-guy repellents that many women fall into the trap of doing. The biggest is any form of negativity, which is an automatic turnoff to any guy on Tinder whoвЂ™s after more than a root. No matter how much you want to tell guys youвЂ™re вЂњnot playing gamesвЂќ or вЂњnot to bother messaging if theyвЂ™re just DTFвЂќ, donвЂ™t. Your ruling out a lot more than the DTFвЂ™s by doing so.
Other no-noвЂ™s include spelling and grammar mistakes, and being too generic. вЂњIвЂ™m a down to earth girl who likes to have fun.вЂќ Yep. And so is every other girl on Tinder.